Disclaimer: Because my fiance reads this blog and we are taking the traditional “no seeing the dress before the ceremony” approach, I cannot give away too many details here at 50Peach. But I promise I’ll share with my readers what I can.
You may be shocked to know that in the three full months I’ve been engaged, I have not yet tried on a single wedding dress. Well that, my friends, will change this weekend!!! My maid and matron of honor are flying in from across the country, my mom is road-tripping it in today and I’m so excited!!!!
These past three months have given me plenty of time to talk with brides who have ‘gone before’ regarding what to expect and here is some of the best advice I’ve received. If any of my lovely readers have anything else to weigh in with, I’d love to hear it!
1. Have a plan.
This one was no problem for me. I’m a planner by nature. Therefore, I have selected boutiques according to location, allocated time for food/coffee breaks before and in between and allowed plenty of time for driving between the boutique. If you don’t stop me soon, I’ll have a printed itinerary with mileage and time allotments per line item. Intervention, please!
2. Know what you want. But be flexible once you start trying on.
I’ve watched enough episodes of Say Yes to the Dress to know that there’s nothing more difficult for a bridal boutique to deal with than a bride who has NO CLUE what she wants. Secondly, the brides who come in saying, “I’ll NEVER buy a ____ style dress!”? … Sometimes that’s exactly the style that suits her the best. So, I’m optimistic going into the weekend. I have printed out several pictures of the style(s) I’m leaning toward. But I’m willing to try on even the kinds that I’d never thought I’d see myself in if that’s what the experts are saying. I’m also bringing pictures of my venue so that the boutiques know the feel of my ceremony/reception. It matters. Ever seen a princess-poof gown… on the beach? Or a Vegas showgirl cleavage-popper… in a stodgy church? OY. NO. And don’t forget the temps/time of year!
3. Opinions are many. Stick to your gut.
Yes, you are bringing along your entourage to weigh in as you try on gowns. They will have opinions. Their opinions will not always match your own. But listen with an open heart to each of your ladies and their thoughts without being bullheaded. Remember that they love you and there’s no need to be hurt if they simply despise the gigantic butterfly applique across your butt! But at the end of the day, it’s your dress. If you want to rock that bejeweled flying insect, do it, girl.
4. Know your budget.
Do not allow a boutique to show you anything even one penny over your budget. Because it would simply suck to fall for a dress, have the big weepy moment of finding the one and pop the bubbly… only to realize it’s way out of your price range. Also, don’t forget about the additional costs for alterations, added accessories, veil, etc. They need to be factored into your budget, so consider lowering the price point of your dress to accommodate.
5. IGNORE THE SIZES
This one was mentioned by nearly everyone I spoke to. Apparently, bridal gowns are sized about four sizes smaller than street sizes. Meaning, at my 5’9″ height and very respectable weight of 145-150, I’ll most likely be a bridal 14 or 16. OUCH. And the bridal industry can kiss my CrossFit-ting “she does squats” ass. Overwhelmingly, the advice was to request that they not tell me the size I’m trying on. Just ask to bring me what fits.
So, my friends… what other advice do you have for me going into the next two days of wedding dress mania? Share your hints, tips and hilarious stories!
UPDATE: Winter Storm Hercules, you are a big jerk. My Maid of Honor’s flight may be delayed or cancelled because of you. Not a happy Peach!! Cross your fingers she makes it in, y’all.