Last night, I was catching up on my shamefully behind blog reading and I came across a post by the ever-hilarious Witty & Pretty. If you’re not from around these parts, Ashley Hesseltine is a local gem with a biting sense of humor, flawless fashion sense, fitness addiction and a crush on the good ole ATL. To put Ash in context, I fell in love with her blog when I saw that she posted a video of her first Brazilian waxing experience. Now THAT, people, is called having some ladyballs! She is (I think) a bit younger than I, but we are both in the phase in which many of our friends are getting engaged. (See my last post, Furbabies and Wedding Rings!)
In this particular post, @AshHess did a very tongue-in-cheek writeup about the Top 5 most annoying Facebook posts about being engaged, which in all honesty, almost made me pee myself laughing. It pokes fun at the various ways the momentous occasion is announced on Facebook, from the cheesy to the gag-worthy to the oh-no-you-didn’t!!!. Go read it.
NOTE: My bestie Nette is guilty of NONE of these – she took the high road on the good ole FB.
So there I was, snuggled up in bed with my iPad on a rainy Sunday afternoon, reading and laughing my ass off at Ash’s post. I was especially delighted by this: [Instead of these,] “I’d like to see: “Three years ago, I got wasted and slept with a dude on the first night and now we’re engaged. Ladies, there is hope.”! HA!!! I went to leave a comment but quickly became distracted by the previous sentiments left by other fine, upstanding people of the internet.* And the more comments I read, the more upset I got.
Ashley was declared to be “bitter”, “jealous” and a “hater”, all because she wrote a lighthearted entry about the sometimes ridiculous/sappy/corny ways that emotional young ladies announce their engagements via social media. To be fair, the comments weren’t all against her – there were many in my camp who found the post laugh-worthy and refreshing. But others said that she was “sad” and that she was “sulking” about the happiness of others. One particularly awful male commenter called her “pretentious, dishonest” and even “slutty”. What the F***, people???
My personal take is to say: Writing an obviously satiric post should not open the floodgates for an insulting comment bloodbath. Why should a young, gorgeous, single blogger NOT address a topic that come ON, everyone thinks but never says!? I personally agree with those that left the comment: “Please, please, please do a post about wedding registries. Or announcing your pregnancy on Facebook!”. Because LAWD are there some crazy ones out there!
Bottom line? Ashley posted a fun, FUNNY piece. Yes, of course people are entitled to their own feelings, but no one should cast stones at someone who clearly is not being intentionally hurtful. Ashley has as much right to poke fun at the starry-eyed “he put a ring on it!!!!!!!!!!” posts as you do to call out the single girls for constantly posting selfies. And food pics. And outfit pics. And bragging about our vacations without kids. And … need I continue???
See what I did there? It’s called humor.
But as someone who is fearful of the haters, seeing the vitriol that Ashley received gave me serious anxiety. If I feel ALL OF THE FEELINGS when a fellow blogger is treated poorly, how would I feel if it were me under attack??? But this is when I must again remind myself, as The Bloggess told me:
Sigh… Haters. Just one more thing to take into consideration as I weigh the pros and cons of being completely “out” on this blog.
Or I can just put on my big girl panties and say what I damn well please. Haters are gonna hate anyway.